As the holidays are rapidly approaching (seriously, way too fast I still feel like it is summer!), we all get caught up in the hustle and bustle of the cleaning, cooking, traveling and gift shopping. We tend to forget about the meanings of the holidays we celebrate. So here I am with a few days before Thanksgiving and not much idea on what I am going to do. I babysit a few children and one of the kid’s I babysit, his mom invited my family to Thanksgiving with them as we don’t have any family out here or who will come visit. So it just got me thinking on what I am thankful for. 

1. My family. Need I say more? I have a wonderful husband, two amazing toddlers, my parents and siblings and of course my extended family even though we don’t see each other often anymore. Yes they get on my nerves, and I get on theirs, but that is what family is for. My family tree is full of nuts, and you know what? I like it that way because it makes every get together interesting! 


2. My children. My flesh and blood. Two amazing boys that I grew and carried in me for 9 months each. They are growing up all too fast it seems and I know before long they will be moving out on there own while I hope that I taught them what they need to know to survive. The two men in my life that I would do anything to protect, even if it meant losing my own life. 


3. My husband, My spouse. My partner in crime. The father of my children. There is no way I can truly express how thankful and grateful I am to have him in my life.  We have had a rough row to hoe and yet we have still made it through with not many clear signs of the future getting any better. We have our plan in place though to improve our life for us as well as our children and I know we will make it happen. He puts up with my insanity, my family, my insanity. Haha! He really is amazing and even though our dating and marriage what not really traditional, we had fun and don’t regret a thing. 


4. Children I watch and their families. Sure it may seem a bit odd, but if it was not for them I would not have the extra income to help out with staying home. I also would be on my own for Thanksgiving with no family to see and no friends. So I am thankful for them to keep my mind busy and for the socializing with their parents. 


5. My best friend. We have pissed each other off and always made up. We tell each other everything. We live hundreds of miles apart and both have our own lives but he has always been there when I needed a shoulder to cry on or someone to vent to. 


What are you thankful for in your life? Whether you celebrate Thanksgiving or Christmas or not, we all have something we are thankful for. 


Adding to the family or buying a home?

Oh the dilemma’s of a family who is renting. We have decided that we want to add to our family and try for a darling daughter but we also want to buy a home instead of throwing money away on rent each month. I stay home, my loving husband works full time and then some so we can pay the bills but I know it is not enough to buy a house unless I can get a job that alternate’s with his hours (meaning I have to work over night) so we don’t have to pay for daycare, which adds up quickly for two children toddlers. It also means we will have to pay much more for insurance if I am working because we won’t qualify for subsidies. Not to mention the husband’s work does not offer insurance and he has to pick his own plan.  We live a modest life and try to save some each month and starting next year we have made the decision to save every extra cent we can to put towards buying a house and building our savings since we are extremely lacking in both even after 4 years together. 


Did you ever come up against this choice? What did you choose? Or what advice do you have for me being in this situation? Build our family now and buy a house later or wait to add on? We are mid-20’s so it isn’t like my clock is ticking yet but I still don’t want to wait too long either.