The End of Another Year

Another year is gone, with all of the ups and downs it brought.  Here is to a better 2016!

My recap of 2015

-I failed my squat challenge.  I completed 18 days out of 30, so better than my first attempt that I did a week.  Third times the charm?

 

-We are finally recovering financially from my husband’s accident this summer.  One income makes things stressful at times but it brought us to a much better place now. 

 

– I am sticking to my homemade toothpaste and it is slowing remineralizing two holes in my molars as well as removing built up plaque.

 

-I have made it through a year of being a mom of 3, with one minor urgent care trip that in reality didn’t even need to happen.  Better safe than sorry! 

 

So the bad with the good. I am not ready for the new year because it means my oldest son will be turning 5. Something I am not ready for, then again I am not ready for any new milestone that my boy’s conquer. Here is to putting the past behind you and embarking on the adventure of 2016!

 

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Spring Break!

The most coveted time for most high school and college students. Being a college student after years away, I have never really cared for spring break. Just a week off to do what I need to do. Now as a mother I have kids to take care of and housework to catch up on since I have been slacking with trying to keep up with homework and tests. My break started off with this weekend and my in-laws coming up to visit. We ate at a buffet then went shooting. It was a long day but fun and the boys got to play with their tio (uncle) so they had a blast as well. I am fortunate to have in-laws I get along with unlike many horror stories that I hear!

Today is back to the normal of this household, well if you can call life with three boys normal! I discovered two of my goldfish have fin rot after having them for a year and a half. So I took some steps to help them but need to find some medicine for them to help them heal. Baby is wanting to be held constantly today and the older two have been driving me nuts playing constantly and won’t sit still. I wouldn’t trade this life for anything though because I love these kids so much and they make my world go round!

Being a mom of young kid’s isn’t easy. Heck being a parent in general is not easy. It is so worth it to see their smiles, hear their laughter, and watch them sleep, that wonderful moment when they are dreaming and there is silence in the house. You can’t deny you love that moment too!

Here is to my spring break and hoping I can get some fun time in here as well before I start up with homework next week!

Raising my Children

When I first became a mom  found out I was expecting, there were so many things that jolted my brain. How was I supposed to take care of this tiny human? Formula or Breastmilk? Co-Sleep or separate room? The questions are endless to say the least. So I started to do my research on the type of mom I wanted to be. There are so many things that inundate our lives with information on what is best for our baby and what is highly recommended by Dr. So and So that a normal every day person has never heard of. What happened to following that gut feeling? Nature’s natural instinct on what we should do? In today’s day and age, many of us in the modern world have pushed that down to focus on what we read online and hear on the news about the latest trend on how to raise a child. So I decided no more. I stopped reading into everything about having a baby. Sure I still saw my doctor, gave birth in a hospital, but when it came time for my oldest son to be born, I never let him leave my site. The one time he did leave, I had Daddy go with him to be sure he wouldn’t get switched with another baby or have the nurses do something I did not want done.

I chose to not have my son circumcised (which is a hotly debated topic) because to me the risks were not worth one benefit. I chose to breastfeed my son until he weaned, which was about 15 months or so and I was 5 or 6 months pregnant with the baby. Though he did want to nurse every so often after the baby was born and I let him.  I did choose to vaccinate because I am worried about diseases but I do not believe in the flu shot. I did a mix of co-sleeping and having him in a bassinet right next to my bed, then as he got older he started sleeping better on his own than in bed with me.  He is nearing 3 years old now and he still likes to cuddle with me, he is a very happy child, loves to help and share. I ditched all the parenting advice that I read and focused on my instincts on how to raise my child. 

When it came time for my second child to arrive, naturally I followed the same things I did with my oldest because it had worked the first time, so why not again? Well my baby was a bit harder to handle, I just got really lucky with my oldest! With Bubba I had to rethink my parenting style so that I could handle two kids under two, as well as maintain some sanity! He did not take to nursing easily, so it frustrated me to no end. Add on to that the inability to pump and I had to do what was best for him and go to formula and bottles. Well that brought on a host of other problems with the formula that we did not beat until we transitioned from formula to milk. Next was the fact he was very attached and needy, the complete opposite of my oldest. Now I know we cannot judge every child the same and that is where I had gone wrong to begin with so that didn’t help how frustrated I got with caring for him every day. He refused to be put down, ever. So I never got anything done at home and my husband just got mad at me so it was a never ending cycle. As Bubba started being more independent, I started getting better and back to my usual self but it was still a rough few months before that point. I still took care of him but didn’t have that bond that I did with my oldest until he was nearly a year old. Now I have a happy  17 month old who loves to crawl in bed with me in the morning just to cuddle, share his slobber covered snacks and copy everything his brother does! 

My journey on being a parent has not been terribly easy, but I am also grateful it was not more difficult as I don’t know how I could have survived it. I stuck to my gut instincts and did what was best for my kids though and that is why they are growing up into two very loving boys. I kept them close and picked them up when they cried (I still do!) I never hesitate to let them crawl in bed with me even though they are now in their own room and own beds. Any kids I may have in the future, I will do the same thing and follow what is best for them and let them grow up in their own way(and try to not focus on what the older kids did at each age)!

I don’t follow the books in any sense of raising my children, I just do what is best. I love my boys to death and would do anything to protect them, after all that is my maternal instinct, so why should I follow the advice of people who have some fancy degree on raising MY children? There is absolutely no reason to. I know my children and what is best, not someone who has never been around my children and never will.

I am a pro-vaccine, anti-circumcision, pro-cosleeping, pro-breastfeeding kind of momma and no one out there will make me change!

Thanksgiving

As the holidays are rapidly approaching (seriously, way too fast I still feel like it is summer!), we all get caught up in the hustle and bustle of the cleaning, cooking, traveling and gift shopping. We tend to forget about the meanings of the holidays we celebrate. So here I am with a few days before Thanksgiving and not much idea on what I am going to do. I babysit a few children and one of the kid’s I babysit, his mom invited my family to Thanksgiving with them as we don’t have any family out here or who will come visit. So it just got me thinking on what I am thankful for. 

1. My family. Need I say more? I have a wonderful husband, two amazing toddlers, my parents and siblings and of course my extended family even though we don’t see each other often anymore. Yes they get on my nerves, and I get on theirs, but that is what family is for. My family tree is full of nuts, and you know what? I like it that way because it makes every get together interesting! 

 

2. My children. My flesh and blood. Two amazing boys that I grew and carried in me for 9 months each. They are growing up all too fast it seems and I know before long they will be moving out on there own while I hope that I taught them what they need to know to survive. The two men in my life that I would do anything to protect, even if it meant losing my own life. 

 

3. My husband, My spouse. My partner in crime. The father of my children. There is no way I can truly express how thankful and grateful I am to have him in my life.  We have had a rough row to hoe and yet we have still made it through with not many clear signs of the future getting any better. We have our plan in place though to improve our life for us as well as our children and I know we will make it happen. He puts up with my insanity, my family, my insanity. Haha! He really is amazing and even though our dating and marriage what not really traditional, we had fun and don’t regret a thing. 

 

4. Children I watch and their families. Sure it may seem a bit odd, but if it was not for them I would not have the extra income to help out with staying home. I also would be on my own for Thanksgiving with no family to see and no friends. So I am thankful for them to keep my mind busy and for the socializing with their parents. 

 

5. My best friend. We have pissed each other off and always made up. We tell each other everything. We live hundreds of miles apart and both have our own lives but he has always been there when I needed a shoulder to cry on or someone to vent to. 

 

What are you thankful for in your life? Whether you celebrate Thanksgiving or Christmas or not, we all have something we are thankful for.